Here are the Four books that taught me to stop Dieting and Hating my body!

Gary wrote to me this week and said: 

Dear Sarah,

                  I need your advice!!! I’m a big fan of yours. I used to listen to the kaneshow all the time. I’m around 200 pounds overweight and I’m done with it. I can’t stand it anymore I need a plan but don’t know where to start or who to talk to. Please help 🙂

Dear Gary,

                  I have been on a diet since I was 12yrs old, I’ve probably gained and lost 150lbs, and I started seeing a mindful eating and living therapist about 3 years ago to finally break the dieting cycle for good. If you want to lose 10, 50, or 200lbs a diet will NEVER work. You will never stay on a carb free diet, low sugar diet, or anything that deprives you for the rest of your life. You may disagree with what I’m saying right now but I promise you there is a better way, a way that you can eat only when you’re hungry, stop emotional eating, trust yourself with food, and love your body just the way it is. I know, it took me 16 years, but I finally believe it. 

Below are four books that helped me to give up DIETS for good and taught me to realize my worth is more than the size of my pants. The video is also more detail of my diet journey and help for you Gary and others. xo, Sarah 

Write me anything anytime: sarah@heyfrase.com  

 

Intuitive Eating: Evelyn Tribole and Elyse Resch

Diet’s Don’t Work: Bob Schwartz  

Women, Food, and God – Geneen Roth  

Getting A Grip: On my body, My mind, and My self – Monica Seles  

 

Response (7)
  1. Sarah Fraser

    Several of you have emailed me wanting to know where you can find a mindful living therapist in your area. Here are my suggestions:

    I found Robin, my mindful living therapist thru googling ‘women’s retreat.’ Women’s retreat brought up Circle YOga in DC. You could try googling local retreats in your area. Also I would google Kirpalu healing center in Mass. I would give them a call. They do mindful living retreats 24/7 they might have some other thoughts too.

    Good luck:) keep me posted. xo, sarah

  2. Danielle

    GREAT ADVICE AND HONESTY! It has to be a life style change. I lost 27 lbs (5’1) and it took 6 months and I had to work out 5-6 days a week and watch everything I ate with one cheat day. For 3 years it became my new normal and I truly maintained and felt so healthy; but then I had kids (a 2 year old and 6 month old) and I have no idea where to start again as I have no time for myself and no energy to work out. I know this isn’t forever bc one day I will again get tired of this sluggish body but until then I am kind of okay with where I am bc it is a choice, so that empowers me.

  3. Sarah Fraser

    Hi Melanie – Don’t lose hope! Something is going on with you emotionally…probably a lot of stress and food right now is the best way to get yourself thru it. I totally understand! I would actually start with Geneen Roth’s book – Women, Food, and God first! She’s the mother of the anti-diet and loving yourself before you can change your body. Let me know what you discover! You will love it…surgery might be the answer but Geneen has an entire chapter on that – find out first the ‘real’ reasons you wan the surgery and ask yourself what will really be different long term after you have the procedure? Keep me posted please. Sending you loads of love girl! xo, sarah

  4. Melanie

    Sarah
    Great advice. I am struggling right now with possibly having weight surgery. I have been trying forever . As you say , I have never worried about the scale, just how my clothes fit. But I have ballooned up to 350 since moving to MD. My lifestyle has changed to a very sedentary lifestyle between commuting 500 miles a week for work and the hours., Leaving at 630 am and not getting home til after 7pm at night. I am too tired to do anything!! So I am doing the consult thing with the surgeon but will pick up the first book mentioned unless you think one of the others would be better to start with.

  5. Melanie

    Sarah
    Great advice. I am struggling right now with possibly having weight surgery. I have been trying forever . As you say , I have never worried about the scale, just how my clothes fit. But I have ballooned up to 350 since moving to MD. My lifestyle has changed to a very sedentary lifestyle between commuting 500 miles a week for work and the hours., Leaving at 630 am and not getting home til after 7pm at night. I am too tired to do anything!! So I am doing the consult thing with the surgeon but will pick up the first book mentioned unless you think one of the others would be better to start with.

  6. Sara Polton

    What I love most about your answer to the question is that you’re not trying to solve Gary’s problem by telling him what to eat or how to work out. Your honesty is refreshing, and you’re very brave to put yourself out there in such a vulnerable way.

    We live in a culture that values men and women based on shallow attributes. I applaud for valuing people based on who they are and not what they way. You are beautiful inside and out.

    -Sara

    1. Sara Polton

      *what they weigh… or possibly how they spell.

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