From the ages of 12 to 28 I believed being a size 4 would make me really happy and beautiful. I starved myself and eventually lost the weight, nothing changed. No major job offer came, I still got dumped by the guy I was seeing, and felt more insecure than ever about my appearance and job security.
I hear women talk about their looks and weight all the time with the words…”if I could just look like….If I just weighed…” things would be different. I would go for the job promotion, get the date I wanted, etc. Living with that mindset is a huge illusion. Even if/when you get to the perfect number on a scale, or get the nose job, the emotional roller-coaster of life is still there.
I was recently reading Geneen Roth’s monthly news letter and came across this quote from Halle Berry on beauty:
Halle Berry, who is considered one of the most beautiful women in the world, once said,
“Beauty? Let me tell you something — being thought of as a beautiful woman has spared me nothing in life. No heartache, no trouble. Love has been difficult. Beauty is essentially meaningless, and it is always transitory.”
Geneen Roth followed the quote with this:
When we define beauty by what the culture considers physically attractive and try to fit into that narrow ideal, we not only make ourselves miserable for an elusive goal, but we miss the point. Beauty isn’t about someone else’s idea or definition of what’s beautiful. It’s about the palpable feeling of openness and gladness you get when you see something lovely, whether it’s a cloudless sky or a surprising act of kindness. Suddenly, everything seems more vivid, radiant, alive. That’s real beauty. – Geneen Roth
If you’re currently caught in the mental trap of believing beauty and weight loss are the answers to your problems maybe reading the above reminder daily will help change your inner voice.
PS – to remind you that beauty is ALWAYS in the eyes of the beholder, my friend/co-worker Christian shared his thoughts on Halle Berry’s beauty:) You will have a good laugh 🙂