Am I compromising myself by not putting my whole life on the radio?

Isn’t it funny how you’re less fired up about things 48 hours after they happen or in my case a week after they happen? Last week on Sarah, Ty, and Mel I was going to reveal a personal health issue that I might be facing. To give you an idea it involved the OBGYN and a test. What a hint ha, everything at the damn OBGYN involves a test. Anyway…if it turned out this test was positive it’s so wild and so uncommon I just felt like I would need to share. However…here comes my dilemma my significant other doesn’t feel the same way. 

My bf Dan is an amazing person…no doubt about it. He’s by far been the best sounding board, best equal partner, and best guy that has put me first and supported my career that I’ve ever dated. Just one issue he doesn’t want to talk about all our business on the radio. Urgh.   

I just feel like the topic of compromise is so major right now in my life and I bet it is in yours too. How do you know when to compromise and when to stay true to yourself? Or does everything require comprise? My biggest fear in life is not realizing my true potential…I’ve seen so many couples where one person sacrifices who they really are and what they really want for someone else. The person who sacrificed themselves always seems to have regret. What if? In a way I feel like I’m at a crossroads. Be with someone who is amazing and whom I love but compromise, or 100% fully follow my dream, don’t compromise, talk about what I want but potentially lose my relationship.   

I don’t care what people think of me or how they judge me. It’s one of the great things I’ve learned thru mindful living therapy…what other people think about me is none of my business. Yet…I realize if I want to share my life with someone I’m going to have to take their feelings and opinions into consideration. 

So fast forward to today…just listened to a voice message saying my results are negative. Alright…disaster avoided but I still have that issue of compromise. I’ve read a couple of blogs on compromise and it seems to come back to one main thing: are you sacrificing your true core values for another person? Is who you are and what you stand for being jeopardized? In this case with Dan the answer is no. Ultimately my life goal and mission isn’t changed by this one discussion. In fact with Dan I feel as tho our discussions are what strengthens our bond every time. 

But more importantly I want to hear your stories…what have you seen and experienced? Does everything in life require compromise or is compromising a slippery slope? As always…I LOVE your comments. Feel free to share your thoughts below. 

Xo, Frase

Response (3)
  1. Either tell the whole story or don’t mention it at all. Decide now how much of yourself you are willing to share. If you want to come off like every girl’s BFF, you need to give up the personal info! If you’re going to keep it more professional then stop teasing us with the "it involves a test and the OBGYN" stuff. And remember, Dan is your boyfriend, not your husband. If you are going to spill your personal "beans" from time to time then let him know up front. Decide if you’re going to be a Kim Kardashian (telling all your business) or a Beyonce (sharing just a little). Either way is cool but you need an understanding "Kanye" if you’re going to act like "Kim K.". Ya feel me? lol Good luck.

  2. Diana

    I think you should go ahead and do what YOU think is right. Dan knows what job you have, and if he loves you and cares for you, he understands that certain parts of your lives are going to be compromised. Your honesty and truthfulness on STM is what keeps me tuning in every morning! Keep it up 🙂

  3. Jen

    Sarah, you have to do what’s right for you. Over sharing on the radio can be a big turn off.

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